How To Handle A Conflict With A Friend or Family?
Why family conflicts are inevitable
Family conflicts - small or large - happen in any family. And this is not because the spouses do not love each other or are disrespectful. Women and men are so different creatures that they look at all situations differently. And if major disagreements are negotiated, then everyone considers it possible to solve minor problems at their own discretion. As a result, a quarrel breaks out.
Why do couples fight?
If we analyze family conflicts, we can conclude that most of them happen because of nonsense. Things are not in the right order at home, newspapers are scattered, the other half has not approached household purchases responsibly enough.
The door is painted the wrong color! All these situations are not worth a damn! But if the parties refuse to compromise, even such little things can lead to a serious quarrel.
If in the first years of marriage, young spouses in most cases solve problems in the bedroom, then in a family with experience, domestic problems sometimes lead to serious conflicts.
How to keep a family if no one wants to give in?
Most often women think about reconciliation. After all, nature itself gave them the role of the keeper of the family hearth.
The culprit of the quarrel is the wife
If the wife is guilty and realizes her guilt, how to make peace with her husband is not a problem for her. Usually a woman knows her man well and knows how to melt his heart.
It is enough for a real man to hear an apology from his wife, a confession of wrong, and reconciliation will take place. But not all women can resign their pride and come up with an admission of guilt. They try to act cunningly.
The following are ways to reach reconciliation without infringing on your own dignity:
- You can offer to visit your husband's mother, especially when warm relations between families are not maintained. After such a visit, the husband will probably forget about the quarrel. True, there is one but ... A mother-in-law can invite her son to the kitchen and set him up even more there. And the quarrel will get worse;
- Try to behave with your husband as if you had never been in anythinglo, but to be more affectionate, more attentive. The husband will thaw out, but gradually;
- It's not a bad idea to arrange a pleasant surprise for your husband, cook your favorite dish, give something for a future birthday or holiday. A man will definitely appreciate such a sign of attention;
- A purely feminine way is to arrange a romantic evening for her husband, turning into an erotic one. If the husband in this situation proudly turns away, then you should not think about how to make peace with her husband after such an act. This means that it is artificially dragging out reconciliation, and it is already worth thinking about why?
Man is to blame for the quarrel
This situation happens in families quite often: the husband is to blame, but he does not want to admit that he is wrong. The conflict is dragging on, the tension between the spouses is increasing every day. How to make up in a serious quarrel with your husband if he is to blame?
- You need to try to call him into a conversation and in an absolutely calm tone, without turning to insults and remembering the hurt you experienced, explain your view of the situation. Most likely, the husband has been waiting for this conversation for a long time, he simply cannot humble his pride and come up first;
- Sometimes it's better to wait. Gradually, the husband will cool down, and, admitting his guilt in the depths of his soul, will begin to suck up . In this case, you should not stand in a pose . A loving woman will always understand that her husband has admitted his guilt;
- You can try yourself a little as an actress. To disguise an unhappy face, to complain to a friend on the phone - it is imperative that your husband hear - how hard it is at heart. Cry behind his back. The spouse will regret, and peace will be restored in the family;
- In some families, women, after having quarreled with their husband, try to make him jealous. The method is very dangerous. An offended man, instead of reaching out to, figuring out with whom and where his wife spends time, can strike back. And then the wife will have to be jealous.
Reconciliation after a major conflict
How to make peace with my husband if the conflict was serious enough and in the process of sorting out the relationship from the husband the word divorce sounded? First, make sure that the conversation about divorce was started spontaneously, at the height of emotion.
When there is confidence in this and it is clear that the husband said this out of despair, from the inability to smooth out the situation himself, then even if you quarreled for a serious reason, emotions should be thrown aside and you should approach your husband yourself. Rub yourself against him like a cat, pet him, say something encouraging.
Men are big children. And by changing the stick for carrot , you can achieve more than insisting on your own. When it seemed to a woman that her husband's decision to divorce had been ripening for a long time, then you can try to check, andIs there any love left? Maybe you shouldn't cling to a relationship?
One way to test the true feelings of your significant other is to make your husband worry. Leave to spend the night with a friend without informing him, go to the hotel, turn off the phone.
Some spouses, after such a shake-up, seeing that the spouse has returned safe and sound, forget about all the grievances and promise never to bring up the topic of divorce again. Wisdom to you, patience and peace to your family!
But with other husbands, this way of making peace does not work. And the husband, who raised all his girlfriends and friends to their feet, looking for the missing wife, phoned morgues and hospitals, when he saw his soul mate, instead of rejoicing and forgiving her for everything, for everything, slams the door in front of her nose and leaves, it happens that forever.
He regarded this path to reconciliation as a mockery.
When trying to avoid divorce, avoid using the following methods:
- manipulate children, shout that if he leaves, he will never see them ;
- remember old grievances, telling, then he always was like that and my mother told me, but I did not listen ;
- express version: you did it all on purpose, I know you have another woman !.
After clarifying the relationship in this vein, the cause of the conflict that caused the disagreement, of course, will be forgotten. But will such behavior lead to reconciliation? Most likely, the family conflict will worsen and the spouses will be one step closer to divorce.
How to make peace with an intractable husband if you quarreled over a trifle, and he categorically refuses to reconcile? Does he walk with an offended look, pressures on pity?
The best way to invite mutual friends over. The husband probably will not want to wash dirty linen in public, and in front of friends he will behave as if nothing had happened. Most likely, the spat will be forgotten by the end of the evening.
If, after the friends have left, the husband continues to sulk, it will be possible to translate everything into a joke.
You just need to understand the rule: no matter how serious the conflict is, you shouldn't let a third person into the family from the outside. Neither mother, nor sister, nor girlfriend, nor close friend of the husband, who knows his childhood and wants only the best should not interfere in the relationship of the spouses. Everyone has their own family experience, and problems in this case are solved only by spouses on their own.
It should be remembered - quarrels happen in every family. Knowing your husband and connecting women's intuition, you can always find an acceptable way out of a conflict situation.