What Age Can Your Kid Transition? | Andrew Schulz and Akaash Singh
Transitional age: what to expect from a child?
Time flies fast! And we often catch ourselves thinking that just recently they brought such a precious bundle from the hospital, in which your baby was peacefully sniffing. For parents, children always remain children.
Time passes, and we begin to understand that yesterday's baby is gradually beginning to take independent steps into adulthood.
Have you noticed that your baby began to behave aggressively and often in a bad mood? Congratulations, your baby has all the symptoms of the beginning of the transition period.
Period growing up
The child's body is growing rapidly, changes are taking place not only in the psyche, but also in the worldview. Under the influence of these factors, the nervous system of your child experiences significant overload.
As a result, you become frequent witnesses of childish tantrums that are unfounded from your point of view. In order to help your child safely cope with all the difficulties of this period, you must know exactly what is the transitional age in adolescents.
The period of time when a child experiences puberty, which is accompanied by rapid growth and physical development, is the period of growing up. At this time, a whole fireworks of hormone production occurs in your child's body.
This process does not have clear time boundaries; it takes place for each undergrowth in its own time. It can often be seen in children between 10 and 17 years of age.
No matter how long this process lasts, it can be divided into three periods:
- Puberty. Youth;
The problems that arise during this period of life are not easy given not only to children, but also to adults. And the primary task of parents is to help their child overcome all difficulties with the least loss.
For girls and boys, the duration of the transition period and its intensity, manifests itself in different ways. In boys, it starts much later and is much more active.
Signs of adolescence in boys:
- the penis and testicles increase in size;
- hair growth begins in the intimate area;
- voice breaking occurs;
- there are changes in the relief of the body;
- wet dreams are observed - this is uncontrolled ejaculation during sleep.
In girls, the symptoms of transitional age have the following signs:
- increases the roundness of the pelvis;
- chest starts to protrude;
- pubic hair appears;
Emotional instability is when, yesterday, an obedient child today becomes rude, suspicious and categorical. Do not give in to panic, these are not your gaps in upbringing, but age characteristics.
They come so rapidly that they are often unexpected for the child himself. Considering that not only physiological, but also mental changes occur in a short period of time, it is not surprising that the body malfunctions:
- frequent physiological ailments. Often a child's organs do not grow as fast as the child itself. Don't worry, a year or two and everything will return to normal;
- vegetative-vascular dystonia. Hormones provoke fatigue, abdominal pain, palpitations;
- acne and pimples. These symptoms usually occur during the most active phase of puberty.
Treat this nuance with all care, as inept attempts by a teenager to get rid of them can lead to scars for life. Have a conversation with your child and tell them how to properly care for problem skin. Provide him with the necessary cosmetics. Balance your diet. All of the above will accelerate the fight against acne and acne.
Adolescent age in girls
I'm fat! Hearing this phrase from the mouth of a child whose weight barely exceeds 45 kg with a height of 150 cm is absolutely natural. Due to the increase in muscle mass, the back and adipose tissue does not graze. And if we consider that the main problem of adolescent age in girls is too high demands on themselves, even such an innocent argument can lead to serious health problems.
And until it comes to anorexia, you need to inspire your little lady that you need to shape the desired figure not with the help of starvation, which is exhausting the body, but in the gym. Literally all physical data are criticized: height, weight, hair color, eye shape, etc.
The complex of imaginary shortcomings is primarily due to the fact that at this time such a feeling as friendship is transformed into love. Unrequited first love more often than other reasons pushes a teenager to self-delusion in itself. Add to this the competitive passion and the conflict is ready.
The actions of the parents should be as follows. Under no circumstances give her a reason to think, hthen you think her problems are minor or silly. If she feels this, then she will simply close and go through her torment alone. Avoid lecturing and didactic conversations. And be especially delicate about her appearance.
Adolescent age in boys
An increase in physical and sexual strength makes boys an irresistible desire to prove to himself and to everyone around him that he is no longer a boy, but a man. At this time, the reassessment of values begins.
There is a desire to act like an adult, but how to do it? Often the psychological unwillingness to bear adult responsibility for adult actions leads to the fact that the young man becomes stubborn, aggressive, uncontrollable.
If parents are interested in helping their child overcome this difficult period in life, then they will tell him the opportunity to show his masculinity. As a rule, these are sports activities, where the child has the opportunity to demonstrate his physical capabilities not only to himself, but also to everyone around him.
If the parents decide to let everything go on the brakes, then get ready for the fact that the child will begin to assert himself with the help of bad habits, hooliganism or idleness.
To be a true friend to your child, you should do the following:
- trust relationship. This is the most important weapon in the fight against adolescence. Your wisdom and life experience is now more relevant than ever;
- the right to make decisions independently. The privilege of making decisions independently has its pay - the ability to take responsibility for their actions. If the child is ready for this, then your task is to observe and guide;
- control wisely. Excessive custody will make the child feel that the parents do not trust him;
- personal space. While he was a child, you carried out cleanliness quality checks in his room with a clear conscience. The teenager's room is his personal area, which remains inviolable to everyone except him.
It is impossible to accelerate the adolescent age, but it is quite possible to make it less painful. Sensitivity and understanding will help you with this.