20 Healthy Habits That *CHANGED MY LIFE* Happy Hacks & Tricks!
Learn to relax for a happier, healthier life
Relaxation can literally be called an art that ideally every person should own. Learn simple and effective ways to learn how to completely relax and maintain inner harmony in all situations.
Reduce the degree of worries
Usually we tend to exaggerate the complexity of almost all life situations. As a result, tension also increases, making it difficult to act in the right direction. Worst of all, once the problem has been resolved, many people find it difficult to completely relax as they keep going through stressful thoughts.
How to learn to quickly relax psychologically? Through the formation of a habit to deal correctly with stressful situations. And it consists in a conscious reduction of the fear of failure and the expectation of trouble.
If you feel that negative emotions go off scale , try to mentally repeat to yourself simple truths:
- no one expects super results from me;
- I handle the situation as well as anyone;
- any difficulty is just a step that I climb;
- I am only helping the Universe to solve the problem in a natural way;
- everything I do is a manifestation of my personality at this level of my development;
- I'm an adult and I'm not looking for approval, etc.
You cannot change your emotional reactions, but you can control your thoughts and judgments. Thoughts stress the body much more than direct sensations, so do not let yourself be lost in the endless echo of a problem that has long been solved or is about to be solved.
One of the main reasons for constant stress is increased criticality. This means that you often and strictly judge the people around you and the reality in which you are forced to be. Discontent not only reflects on our face in the form of a grimace of contempt and disgust, but also makes the whole body react to the negativity within us.
Think about what happens when you are unhappy:
- the muscles of the face, head and neck tighten - the mimicry of an unfortunate person appears, headaches arise from the so-called neurasthenic helmet (the muscles of the head contract and increase intracranial pressure);
- tension in the back muscles leads to poor posture and pain;
- the diaphragm is constricted, cramps, heart-like pains and digestive problems are possible;
- blood pressure rises;
- release of stress hormones that drain the body's strength.
And this is without taking into account how stress puts pressure on you psychologically! If this is the case, would you not consider it necessary to change your attitude towards reality? By and large, we cannot change anyone and anything in this world except ourselves.
Let go of the habit of criticizing, tacitly judging others and engaging in meaningless arguments. As one wisdom says - either you want to be right, or you want to be happy. Tell yourself - this minute everything is fine! And you will feel a lot of relief.
Create the right channel for your tension
Of course, we need some tension, for example, in work, in achieving what we want, etc. But you should be able to turn on and turn off as appropriate. For example, a home is a resting place, a place where the whole family recovers, and the stress of one member causes a chain reaction in others.
On the other hand, relaxation is inappropriate in the workplace, where an employee who is lazy and imposing about his business will certainly discourage the entire team.
When you get to work, focus, create the right tension:
- make a small action plan;
- agree on a phased delivery of the work - this will customize you;
- try to do the job better and faster;
- don't get distracted;
- check and double-check what you have done;
- don't take long breaks to stay focused.
How to learn to relax when you are not working? Just motivate yourself right. First, constant stress is counterproductive - there is no point in continuing to ponder problems, such as lying in bed before bed.
Secondly, although household chores and communication with loved ones also require attention, this is a completely different state, full of gentleness, care and benevolence. The tension has nothing to do here, convince yourself of this as soon as possible.
Night rest helps to distribute energy
Sufficientsleeping at a decent time (for many it is from 11 pm to 6-7 am) tunes your body to the correct rhythm. A healthy body itself perfectly regulates the alternation of tension and relaxation, and for this you need to get enough sleep.
What's stopping you from relaxing before bed? This can be an uncomfortable pillow or mattress, a pet sleeping at your feet, curtains that are not drawn, a dripping tap, or a turned on TV. Air the bedroom before bed, make the bed and take away from the bedroom all things reminiscent of daytime worries in the evening.
How to learn to relax in bed
Such an important part of life as intimate relationships also depends on relaxation. The quality of sex is directly related to how fully you can relax your mind and body at the right time. And although pleasant sensations do a lot to help you forget, an internal clamp can deprive you of that pleasure too.
Of course, the main thing in intimate communication is to get rid of everything that bothers you and give your undivided attention to your loved one. But there are also some purely technical techniques that help the body understand that the time has come for tenderness and love pleasures.
Warm. Oddly enough, many women fail to reach orgasm due to frozen feet and insufficient temperature in the bedroom. If that's your problem too, take a warm bath and warm up the room with a heater.
Massage. The touch of a loved one will help you relax, if you start with gentle strokes, gradually increasing the pressure. Passionate rudeness without preliminary caresses, on the contrary, makes the body tense. Talk to your partner about it.
Fragrances. Many people know about aphrodisiac fragrances that stimulate arousal, but few realize that their mechanism of action includes a calming effect. The smell of vanilla, chocolate, rose perfectly calms and relaxes.
Think about lighting and sounds as well - dim lights and lounge music will be a great prelude to good sex.
What else helps you relax
Experience proven ways to relieve stress. You can use all the tips or choose one or two of the proposed options and even find something of your own. Most importantly, take the trouble to find an approach to your body.
Classic ways to relieve stress:
- exercise - running, yoga or gymnastics with music is equally good;
- reading your favorite book aloud engages all the verbal processes - speaking, listening, thinking - and helps to truly distract;
- playing with animals is a great way to relax on a walk or at home;
- yoga breathing or light gymnastics with breathing at the expense.
Brew a cup of tea, but not ordinary, but herbal tea - recipes for herbal teas are varied and allow you to choose a combination that suits you both in action and in taste.
The main components of soothing teas:
It's good to drink such a drink in the evening, an hour and a half after dinner, then by the time you go to bed you will be in the most blissful mood.
Ask your friends how they relax, and if they are acceptable to you, join and invite them to spend time together.